About Paula Gardner

Mom. Author. Yoga Teacher. Ayurveda Consultant. Marketing Maniac. Chief Happiness Officer. It all counts because YOU count.

Through My Eyes

Through My Eyes

Sometimes, things happen and we HAVE to pay attention
and we HAVE to laugh at ourselves!!!

And then we understand that they hold more meaning
than the event.

What happened today reminded me that we see things—
not only through our eyes but also through the veil
of our mind, our experience, our current emotional state,
our current thoughts….

And so […]

By |August 31st, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Begin The Day

Do you feel this way–
Before you even open your eyes in the morning, some mornings,
maybe many mornings, you feel it creeping its way into your skin,
your muscles, your bones, your mind, your eyes, your throat.

It’s that ANXIETY monster.

I’ve fought for years.
Then, yesterday morning,
THIS came to me:

Begin The Day.

Stomach churning,
nerves lit up,
inner limbs aquiver,
muscles knotting,
throat closing.

My […]

By |August 24th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

My New Mantra


How do you calm yourself? center yourself? de-anxiefy yourself?
(This isn’t a word, but it fits, doesn’t it?)

For several years, I’ve used the phrase, “Breathing In; Breathing Out”
to help me reconnect to the present moment when I was feeling
like I was spinning out of control, stressing, over-thinking,
over-feeling, over-reacting.

When I had a pit in my […]

By |June 30th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments


It comes in waves.

Waves of awareness.
Waves of denial.
Waves of grief.
Waves of memories of laughing moments.
Waves of confusion.
Waves of recognition.
Waves of a growingly gaping hole.

Waves of wanting to fill that hole,
crowding out the sorrow.
Waves of pausing to let the sorrow in.
Waves for leaving that piece of my heart just for her,
not to be filled nor forgotten.
Waves […]

By |March 3rd, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Life’s Transitions

Ha!  Life’s transitions.  Has anyone looked at the word, life’s, as the contraction that it is?  Life IS transitions.

You bet life’s transitions!

In the last few months, I’ve moved my parents (age 98 and 94) into independent (yes, independent) senior living, BOTH my sons are now in college, the center where I’ve taught yoga and meditation […]

By |February 24th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What’s The Story?

What’s the story you’ve been telling yourself?

This was Mike Dooley’s assignment on Day 8 of the Infinite Possibilities Project.  At first, my response was same old, same old.  And then, my answer WHACKED me with such force that I had to write this to him, to ME:

#infinitepossibilitiesproject Day 8.

The layers of protection sloughed off […]

By |January 9th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

I Can See Clearly Now

I can see clearly now.

Back in November, my friend and mentor Jacqueline Gates (aka the goddess known as Jacqui)  had exhorted all of us in The Parlour to clean all the mirrors and glass surfaces in our homes so that we could enjoy clearer vision headed into the New Year. I believe it had something to do […]

By |January 4th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Just Say NO To A New Year Resolution

Just Say NO To Setting a New Year Resolution!

What are your New Year resolutions?

I don’t make resolutions anymore.
They’re so HARSH, so final, so UNFORGIVING, so dehumanizing.

Let’s think about this.
How many times in the past did you RESOLVE to lose weight? run farther? be patient? read 10 books a day? Not yell at your kids or […]

By |January 3rd, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

After The Angels Have Moved On

After the Angels have moved on?
Angels don’t move on.
Angels are present with us–bidden and unbidden–
everywhere we stand, sit, move, walk, run, drive to.

This is challenging for us to grasp
since we’re linear thinkers most of the time
and we don’t necessarily trust the notion
that a Presence would remain with us at all times.

But they do.

Even when we […]

By |December 28th, 2015|Uncategorized|1 Comment


Prayer for Today: Worthy.

I stumble over these feelings.
I have resisted them
(seeing them, naming them)
for months…

No… for a lifetime.

And today,
they’ve jumped onto my table
and into my lap
and REFUSE to be put down, away, ignored.
They will NOT be ignored;
because TODAY, they feel threatened;
they want to win.

They have insinuated themselves
into every thought,
every word (spoken and unspoken)
every […]

By |November 7th, 2015|Uncategorized|2 Comments